Clearly Sleep’s Important Also, But…

It’s an inconvenient reality in my life that it takes the stillness of the late hours when most others are sleeping for me to be able to think clearly. I suppose by think clearly I more rightly mean to think about and meditate on clarity, or what at least I believe or must come to believe to be true for me. Daytime is about reaction and response and frenetic action and time spent whirling in what can feel like an unrelenting torrent of white water like currents. Night is about contemplation and stillness and being able to put together the pieces, feel what must be felt, and decide the next courses of action. Continue reading

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In Progress…

Happy New Year!

How quickly the time passes.  Why it seems just yesterday it was 2010 and now it’s already 2011 and I haven’t posted since November!  December was always going to be a hectic month and while I found some time to write I never got anything to the point where I was ready to share it.  I’ve heard several writers in interviews say that they didn’t know what they thought until they’d written it.  While I understand the sentiment about the clarity that comes from working through vague or incomplete ideas and turning them into a cohesive and coherent narrative, that explanation has always seemed to me to be an after the fact one, much too suggestive of ideas as accidental discovery or happenstance rather than laborious achievement.
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Today’s Riddle: Where’s the iPod touch?

Answer: In the large pot in the kitchen.


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Boot!

On our adventures yesterday my wife jumped out of the car, did a ninja barrel-roll at 50 kilometers an hour and attacked a consignment store she’d spotted on a previous excursion.  Or possibly it might have been that she ran in while M and I circled the block a couple of times.  Either way, after a short play in near freezing if not freezing temperatures, bathed in the golden mid-afternoon winter sunlight (the light this time of year is just gorgeous!) in the kids playground at John Lawson Park in West Van., and following warm drinks and snacks all around, my wife discovered a pair of classic yellow gum-boots for M in the aforementioned consignment store.  At home M tried on his new boots and it was probably two hours before he’d let us take them off again.  “Boot,” he said proudly pointing.  So simple yet so happy.  Kids are fun.
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What’s in a name? Everything!

“Momma” and “Daddy,” the two words that every parent longs to hear.  Not just the sound but used as a name for you and you only.  Nothing fills your heart with greater glee than hearing “Momma!” or “Daddy!” called out from across the room.  M has discovered the power of this naming in the past few weeks.  Of course it’s a double edged sword in that nothing can be more heartbreaking than when they call of for the other parent who isn’t there.

Such was the case last week while we were over helping my wife’s father with some of the renovations to his kitchen.  M had been a little uneasy all night with the mess (most of the kitchen having taken over the living room of their condo) and the occasional power tools.  He didn’t see his mum step out briefly to meet the pizza delivery guy.  “Momma.  Momma,” went a little voice down the hallway checking the bedroom, then bathroom and den.  “Momma,” he called questioningly while I tried to explain and reassure him that she’d be right back.

Not finding her in the den he walked back towards the kitchen disaster, not wanting me then or to come up, calling with a slight quiver in his voice, a faint moisture starting to accumulate around his eyes.  “Momma?” he called more quietly.  Just then my wife came back in, greeted by a very happy little boy.

If you could you’d spare your children every heartache in the world, but just every once in a while it is extremely gratifying to catch those hints of how much you are needed and loved so, so unconditionally.

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Catch-Up On The Not-Work

I’ve posted a couple of new things today, most of them written in the last two weeks. As much as the writing here might suggest that I just toss these posts out there I do in fact generally re-read and re-work them several times before posting. I enjoy writing and aspire to be a better writer so it’s exercise, exercise, exercise. Of course the trick is carving out the time for this hobby and keeping things moving slowly forward to completion. We’ll see where it all leads. If nothing else I think this will prove to be an interesting record of the journey.

More soon.


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Hug!

My wife has been I think reasonably disappointed that each day when she leaves for work our son isn’t more upset. He’ll stand in the living room and wave goodbye relatively nonplussed about the departure. While his descending into the throws of do-not-leave-me despair wouldn’t be the most pleasant thing for me being left behind to have to console, I do appreciate that seeing perhaps a little heartache at the separation might be a little comforting for her.

It was then completely heartwarming today when his response to her bye from the front door resulted in him yelling “Hug!” and coming running from the living room at top tottering toddler speed. That’s a big moment.


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Goodnight Moon, Night Night Elmo

M is nineteen months old today (November 16th) and picking up new words every day.  I catch him mimicking me all the time, repeating the sounds he hears but now obviously connected to their meanings.  It’s been an incredible process to watch and be a part of, but tonight he really blew our minds.

After dinner tonight while we were playing around he grab his large stuffed Elmo and took him over to the cabinet where we keep the diapers.  Reaching inside he pulled out the change mat and laid it out then lay Elmo down on it.  He grabbed the bum lotion and flipping the lid (before I could grab it from him) got the tiniest amount on his finger and began to rub it on Elmo.  Then grabbing a diaper he unfolded it and lay it over Elmo.  This kind of behaviour was totally new.

I helped fasten the diaper onto Elmo and M picked him up and began to carry him away down the hall towards the bedroom saying “Night, night.”  His mum followed him off into the bedroom and asked “Should we sing Elmo songs?” answered with a vigorous nod to the affirmative. So they sang Twinkle Twinkle as M held Elmo over his shoulder carressing his back.  “Should we put Elmo in the crib?”  Yes.  Night, night Elmo.

One day you’re shocked to discover that they aren’t just babies anymore.  They have these incredible little imaginations, and thoughts, and ideas that you even as their parents only get glimpses of and if you’re lucky get to watch play out in front of you.  It’s a fabulous, fabulous adventure.

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Nights Like This

The winds are howling tonight sending a rumbling vibration through the concrete walls of the apartment building.  The balcony door is thundering in it’s track taking the brunt of each gust.  I don’t think I’ve gotten used to the darkness yet.  I always forget just how dark, how suddenly dark the winters are and how short the days.

I went to change M’s diaper tonight and discovered he had a really bad diaper rash across both inner thighs and his groin.  Even gently trying to wipe around the area it was clear that it was extremely painful.  There had been no indications of a rash or anything when I’d changed his diaper just a little earlier and he’d given no sign in between of discomfort.  Ever since getting his inoculations last week he’d been having pretty runny poops and tonight’s had been pretty bad.  But I can only guess that it was from that. Continue reading

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Status: Building a Space Ship

(Written November 5th)

We’re back from Victoria again, this time at least it wasn’t for work.  M and I were there for his 18 month doctor’s check-up (we’ve kept our family doctor in Victoria, the same doctor who performed the delivery, because he’s fantastic and because it’s not easy to find a new one in this province… another discussion).

The trip over was another one of those great adventure days filled with my son’s exuberance for everything.  One example, after finishing lunch in the cafeteria and watching the world leisurely passing by he tore off down the halls of the ferry yelling “Bye!” at the top of his lungs.  At least, that is, until he reached the children’s play area where he stopped dead in his tracks with an amazed “Wooooow….”  The other parents already there were only more gleefully amused when M took off like a shot out of the play area a few minutes later once again yelling “bye” and leaving me to chase after (sporting the appropriate smile of course).

Okay, wait.  Time out.  That’s all true, that’s what happened, but it’s also not exactly quite right.  I’m still feeling my way through this story telling thing, trying to find my voice as they say.  The area where I’m having the most difficulty so far is describing in brief the immeasurably complex emotions that come out of being a parent.   Continue reading

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